Kids and Pets

I don’t know how I pulled it off as a kid but I feel like I had every animal I could ever have wanted.  I don’t ever remember fighting my parents on this or even begging or whining for an animal. (though I’m not sure I would remember that – Mom might!)  This just makes me think my parents were:

1)  crazy

2)  trusting me to be responsible

3)  fine with animals

Now that I’ve got kids I realize I’m a lot less lenient in this area than my parents were, which seems sort of weird and unfair.  I got to have tons of animals.  Why not let my kids have the same experience?

1)  because after having so many animals I know how much work it is

2)  I am now the one who purchases furniture and no kitty claws will come close to it

3) I can smell the scent of each animal by just thinking about it and I’m not sure I want to relive any of it

So I made a mistake the other day when I hopped into the truck and my youngest said, “Hey Mom!  Can I get another fish?”  The right answer, I realize now, would have been – “Yes!  Yes of course you can!  A fish!  Great idea!  Let’s go right now!”

But instead I said something more along the lines of, “Seriously, how many fish deaths do we need to have connected to our family name?”

We’ve done fish before.  Lots of times.  Some had a decent record of days and others barely survived the weekend.  Let’s just say we’re not fish people.  We’ve tried and tried and tried and I would bet money that those kids who say they’ve had their Beta’s for 3 years really have parents who scoop out the floating one and replace it with its identical twin all while their child is at school!

The problem with me saying no to a fish?  Well, he upped the anti.  It became how ’bout a turtle?  (they sti-ink!) A bird?  (hello flying poop machines) Lizard?  (Just, no.)  Frog?  (What are you going to do with a frog?)  Hedgehog?  (You’ve got to be kidding…)

After days of putting him off by telling him to research each animal, find out how much everything will cost (unfortunately, the kid has birthday money to blow), run the life span by me (if it will live longer than he will likely be in this house it’s an automatic no!), google facts about it and how it will get along with our dog…. (Did I mention we have a dog?  Yeah, apparently that’s not good enough.) came the tears.  Tears and accusations along the lines of, “You don’t want me to have any animal and you’re just trying to put me off and talk me out of everything!”

Doh!  He was onto me!  Crap.

We truly thought that by going with the dog it would satisfy their lifelong needs for small animals.  But the boy is just like me as a child and wants his own.  Something he can care for and nobody else is allowed to touch.  It’s really more about ownership than anything, though he is our animal lover for sure.

So, I caved.  I loved all my animals as a child.  (cat, dog, hamsters galore, many turtles and even more fish.   I recall a brief stint with a chicken and a budgee that would sit on my brothers head when he practiced piano.  Oh, and a snake.  That got out.  Sorry, mom!)

It really hardly seemed fair that I got to have the joys of all these animals and  yet deprive my boy of just the same.  So we’re working on narrowing it down and I’m kicking myself for not just saying yes to the fish!  Possibly my dumbest move as a mom yet!

Anyways, I’m hear to ask, did you have pets growing up?  Did you love them or get bored with them?  What was your favourite?  I need pro’s and con’s (especially the cons) because he’s pressing hard and I don’t want to screw it up again.

And moms out there, let ’em have the fish!




3 thoughts on “Kids and Pets

  1. I also had lots of animals, Hamsters, cats, dogs, lizards, pigs, chickens, Horses (we had a small farm :P) my sisters had goats and other things im sure!

    I didnt like the hamset they dont live long which can be a pro teehee but they get sick and puffy and its gross when they die!

    birds stinks and make too much noise in my book! and I have always hated them ever since as a small child my aunts bit my nose!

    for my kids we have a cat and we have had fish. Im scared of snakes and spiders so I never want those in the house but i would be ok with a lizard 😛 if they ask!

    we opped for hermit Crabs! i love them! very low up keep! I will take them out of their coconut hut just so i know they are alive! They stay in the hut most of the day and even feeding them and watering them lasts a long time! you just need to spritz water at them through out the day! they live long but i can take them with me on holiday or leaving them a weekend wont kill them either!


  2. I never was allowed pets which unthought was cruel, but now I get it! My parents had a lot of the same reasoning as B and I – they’re too much work, we’re a busy family who travels a lot and would have to find ppl to watch out pets, they shead, they wreck things, they’re expensive, etc. And they HAD A YARD. Brad and u are city people through and through so it’s obviously a no. I mean, a “NEVER”


  3. ha ha! Love the bird and the nose story, Mel!

    And haven’t you heard to never say never, Em? You’re only asking for trouble 😉


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s